Self-love
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When February arrives each year, reminders of Valentine’s Day are everywhere. Red hearts on store windows, greeting cards, chocolates, flowers, lingerie; all are themed for lovers.
February 14th is difficult for many singles.
For those recovering from a break-up, the date can trigger loving memories from the past and lonely feelings in the present.
When the ‘Vagina Monologues’ was very popular several years ago, the term ‘V-Day’ took on a whole new meaning for women. Valentine’s Day became one of celebrating self-love for oneself as a female, whether one had a partner or not.
There are many ways to deal with a day and night that is specifically set aside each year for lovers, as well as personal anniversaries that were once celebrated as a couple.
Some singles choose to ignore these dates altogether and stay at home. Others seek out friends, usually of the same sex, and enjoy dinner, a movie or other activities together.
However an individual spends these particular dates, it is important to learn how to nurture and care for oneself, choosing favourite things to eat, drink, and do, whether alone or not.
Regularly building time into your daily routine for yourself is self-caring, not selfish.
Self-love is a prerequisite for enabling one person to care for and love another.
An analogy that characterizes the absolute necessity for self-love is in our ‘friendly skies’.
When an aircraft is boarded and ready for flight, one of the crucial safety measures is taught regarding what to do should the oxygen masks be released.
‘Always put on your own oxygen mask first, before attempting to assist anyone else, including small children.’
This is an important life lesson to learn and makes perfect sense, that to love and care for oneself is necessary before one can love or care for anyone else.
