Judy Price is Writing

When individuals think of reconciliation after a break-up, they usually think it means ‘getting back together’. 

However, that is only one possibility, and only after both sides have resolved their differences. Both partners need to want to try together again.  Individual and couple therapy might be necessary to this end. This kind of reconciliation only has a chance when no third parties are involved.  It is a good goal to have, if possible, especially  when children are involved

A more realistic goal might be to reconcile as friends, or if that is not possible, as cordial past partners.  To do this, ‘letting go’ of blame and ‘forgiveness’ are essential ingredients.  Related articles which deal with these themes are referenced.

Another meaning, often overlooked, is to reconcile with oneself the fact that the relationship is over. 

Acceptance of the reality of life without the other partner is crucial for a person to move on with his/her life successfully.  Once this is accomplished, and the focus is on developing one’s own self, there is the possibility to be happy as a single.  When this goal is achieved, anything is possible.