Judy Price is Writing

In a break-up the individual gets custody of oneself.  Perhaps this is the first time as an adult that one is alone.  As daunting as that can be, it is also an opportunity to develop a relationship with oneself.

Discovering what your preferences are and exploring a variety of interests assist the learning of who you are.  Just like in developing a relationship with another person, it is similar in becoming your own best friend.

The reality is that you are the only one who will be with you as long as you live, and the only person you can really rely on and trust to do what’s best for you.

There might be personal childhood issues or other trauma(s)  that occurred in one’s life that need to be addressed in therapy before one can become emotionally healthy.

Unlike the stigma that sometimes occurs regarding those who seek the professional assistance of  ’shrinks’, it is a genuine strength to ask for help when it is needed.

Caregivers, in particular, or those who assume the role of the one who routinely  ’gives’ more than he/she  ’takes’ in  relationships, usually have difficulty seeking help from others. 

These individuals might view a break-up as an opportunity to finally learn how to ‘take’ from others to gain a more healthy balance in their lives.

Self-esteem or self-worth is developed as a person gains confidence in his/her value as a unique individual. 

When one believes that work or other people are what give value to him/her, as opposed to oneself, then a relationship or career loss can be devastating to this individual.

A break-up can be the stimulus to finally learn self-love which enables one to move on.