Judy Price is Writing

Love is not something we can let go, as love is a process.  It changes, but doesn’t die because we say good-bye. 

The relationship is what ends and needs to be let go.

As painful as the letting go is, trying to kill the love that developed in the relationship is impossible to do without numbing and embittering a part of oneself in the process.

The bond that is created between two people who love one another is broken when a relationship ends, yet the love and positive memories stay with each individual, enabling him/her to move on and to perhaps develop another future love relationship.

The love felt for the past partner is also what enables forgiveness to occur, along with reconciliation, which might only mean acceptance of the end of the relationship. 

If fear, which is the opposite of love, existed in the relationship, then the end of the union will hopefully liberate the one who experienced the dread.

The exertion of power and control over another is not love, and only engenders fear from the other partner. 

Submission is an expression of fear, not love, of the dominant one in the relationship. 

Please refer to my recommendation list ( at my link as  Life Relationships Toronto Break-up Examiner)  for resources to deal with this kind of abusive situation.

The book by Nicholas Sparks entitled Dear John, now made into a movie, characterizes what love means through the story of the main character, John Tyree, portrayed by actor Channing Tatum. 

In the book, John, who narrates his story in first person, is the epitome of what loving and letting go really means in a relationship.